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A Troubled Friendship: Ismat Chughtai’s Essay, My Friend, My Enemy

my friend my enemy essay

As we weather the storms of life, our friendships evolve in different ways; they either ripen or sour in degrees as we uncover the brilliant or unsavory facets of our friends’ personalities. What remains unchanged, however, is the impact of this relationship on our own life and personhood. The remarkable friendship between the two darlings of literary controversy, Ismat Chughtai (1915 – 1991) and Saadat Hasan Manto (1912 – 1955), was no different.

Through literary and commercial success, court cases, births, deaths and migration, they held each other in a sort of critical fondness, the kind we reserve for those closest to our hearts. In her essay “My Friend, My Enemy”, Chughtai reflects on her troubled friendship with Manto and pays tribute to her closest intellectual ally whom she loved and hated in equal measure.

The essay begins in Chughtai’s characteristic style poking fun at both the situation and the characters involved. To overcome her “anxiety” at meeting Manto (who was already notorious for his incisive tongue) for the first time, she immediately adopts the strategy of quick retaliation, thereby establishing herself as his equal.

Manto: “Arre, I thought you would be sort of dark, skinny and sickly-looking.” Chughtai: “And I thought you would be a loud-mouthed, overbearing Punjabi.”

Their conversations oscillate between serious philosophical concerns and crude, mundane matters. What remains constant is a call and response–an intellectual ping pong that allows them to test their ideas and theories against a loving yet unforgiving critic.

Whenever Manto and I decided to meet for five minutes we ended up being together for five hours. Having an argument with him was like sharpening one’s intellect; it was as if the cobwebs were being cleared, the brain swept clean with a jharu .

They even become good friends with each other’s spouses to the extent that Chughtai considers her friendship with Manto’s wife, Safia, to be “stronger and more enduring”. Manto often turns to Chughtai’s husband, Shahid, to resolve conflict and restore peace.

As their friendship deepens, Chughtai develops a deep respect for the brilliance, complexity and contradictions in Manto’s art.

He looks for pearls in excrement, in every abandoned dung heap of the world, because he doesn’t trust those who would reform it, doesn’t trust their intellect and judgment. He pounces upon the intruders hiding in the hearts of honourable and virtuous females, and compares them with the piety in the heart of the prostitute from the kotha . He finds the squalid washerwoman more sweet-smelling than the bride drenched in perfume.

However, she is not immune to his imperfections. His alcoholism and stubborn pride frustrates her and she worries that their bitter fights will “surely break the bonds of friendship”. The final straw is Manto’s sudden departure to Pakistan in anticipation of the Partition. Although he leaves without saying goodbye, he writes several letters urging her and Shahid to follow. Chughtai is touched by his entreaty but also angry that he doesn’t understand or respect her decision.

Gradually, Manto’s ruin begins to unfold in his sporadic letters; he is broke, jailed and eventually admitted to a mental institution. Chughtai witnesses his undoing with a great degree of sadness and remorse, bemoaning her own role in the eventual demise of her greatest friend-enemy. She leaves us with this haunting thought:

Those who die inflict a wound that neither aches nor bleeds; it just smoulders quietly forever.

(Translation by Tahira Naqvi)

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The idea is unmistakable in spite of the translated dullness of "caustic literary material". For Chughtai, the function of literature was to cleanse society by exposing its hypocrisy and decadence. Indeed, what makes Chughtai and the other progressive writers of Urdu so special is that they brought about a social revolution through literature. That is how Krishan Chander, Saadat Hasan Manto, Rajinder Singh Bedi, Ali Sardar Jafri, Khwaja Ahmed Abbas became house hold names.

From the ruins of a crumbling, feudal and communalised history, they projected a free, secular and socialist India. That the country was partitioned is another matter - if the progressive writers failed, Chughtai makes it clear that theirs was a heroic, even tragic, failure.

In Chughtai's book, most of the protagonists of the progressive movement figure prominently and memorably. The title essay, "My Friend, My Enemy" is about Manto, the eccentric, unforgettable, egoistic, brilliant, alcoholic genius.

While Chughtai does not hesitate to call him a coward and an opportunist for running away to Pakistan, she also rises to his defence when he was criticised after his death. Only Chughtai would dare to describe Manto as "a man who gave the appearance of a finely shaped insect."

my friend my enemy essay

Chughtai's sketch of the poet Meeraj, on the other hand, is laced with stinging humour. "In my family, poetry wasregarded asthe art of the hijras," she says, setting the tone. What demarcates Chughtai from the other progressives is her burning concern for women. "This is a man's world, man has created and mutilatedit, "she declares.

Yet this oppression and subjugation of women can be countered only through the revamping of the whole system: "You are imprisoned in purdah, your sisters are illiterate, the children of your country are hungry, the young men are unemployed and sick. "The way out is not complaint or blame: "I always hated the griping, weeping, whining womanhood that bore bastards," she says.

In the new order, as Chughtai envisions it, "Women won't have to crouch in putrid drains like starving bitches . . . Men will be distanced from bestiality." There is also a section of "Reminiscences" which has the account of the Lihaaf trial and of Chughtai's passage to Pakistan.

The first section of the book also has the utterly hilarious narrative of the Progressive Writers' journey, "From Bombay to Bhopal". While we need to begrateful to Kali for Women and Tahira Naqvi for giving us so much of Chughtai over the years, we must insist on higher standards of translation and editing.

This volume lacks even a rudimentary account of the author's life, and a bibliography is, quite predictably, absent. The book also has one of the worst covers I've seen in a long time.

It makes Chughtai look like a four-eyed extra-terrestrial, precisely the kind of ogress her critics had turned her into during her tempestuous life.

F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

What You Can Do When Your BFF Turns Into Your Worst Enemy

New research into friendship chemistry may shed light on "frenemies.".

Posted April 7, 2017 | Reviewed by Jessica Schrader

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Bethany*, a mother of two, told me that her best friend had suddenly abandoned her: “I don’t understand. One day we're closer than sisters, and the next, we're not speaking.”

Liane, a preschool teacher, said, “My best friend just stabbed me in the back. How could that happen?”

Keisha, an account executive, said, “Stuff has been going on at work, and everybody’s tense. But my closest friend at the office and I always said we’d get through it together. And now I find out she has thrown me under the bus.”

"Frenemies," the popular term for best friends who become enemies, is usually used in reference to teen relationships. But both in my psychotherapy practice and in interviews I did for my new book about women’s friendships,** I heard over and over again about this painful and sometimes surprising reversal in the lives of women of all ages, all over the world. And the anecdotes are backed up by scientific research: According to a study reported in Jan Yager’s book about friendship , 68 percent of people interviewed had been betrayed by a friend at some point. But with frenemies, the betrayal can be followed by making up and being BFFs once again, only to have the friendship disrupted and the whole cycle start over again.

How does this happen? Why? And what’s the best way to respond when it happens to you? (One further question: Does it really happen more with women than with men?)

Recent research into something called “friendship chemistry” offers some insight. “Interpersonal chemistry,” a relatively new concept that has been studied in romantic relationships , also exists in friendships, according to a group of psychologists at California State University, San Bernardino. Defined as “an instant emotional and psychological connection between two individuals,” this chemistry can quickly impact whom we connect with and even how that relationship will turn out in the long run.

Psychologist Kelly Campbell and her team conducted interviews and gave out questionnaires to a sample of 688 men and women between 18 and 66 years old. Campbell and her colleagues, Nicole Holderness and Matt Riggs, found five important factors in friendship chemistry:

1. Reciprocal candor, or mutual understanding and easy communication.

2. Mutual interest, or enjoying the same things and even finding the same things funny.

3. Personableness, or being warm and caring, down-to-earth, and genuine.

4. Similarity, as in values, morals, beliefs about life, life goals , and education .

5. Physical attraction .

The study's sample consisted mostly of women—81 men and 607 women—which makes it difficult to determine whether men and women struggle with the same issues. For the most part, I have heard these stories from women (although not totally, as you can read in my post about friends who hurt you) .

In the 1990s, Pat O’Connor highlighted some of these factors in her research into women’s friendships. Another study, published in 2014 by a group of researchers at Utrecht and Stockholm Universities, found that convenience plays an important role in the formation and preservation of friendships for both men and women. This study, led by Gerald Mollenhorst of Utrecht University, showed that social context, which is a way of talking about the ease with which we might run into a friend and the comfort of the setting in which we see them, is significant in both men’s and women’s friendships.

It would seem logical that when that context changes in certain ways, a friendship will shift. And in some of these shifts, friends can become enemies. When the context changes again , you might find yourself feeling close once again, although if it happens often enough, you might wonder if the friendship is worth the roller coaster ride.

For instance, if you and a colleague are in pretty much equal positions at work, you could develop a positive and collegial work friendship; but if the position above the two of you opens up, and one or both of you want to apply for the job, the context immediately changes: You are no longer equals; you are competitors. In many instances, healthy friendships can handle the shift, but when they don’t, a once-supportive friend may turn into a frenemy.

That’s exactly what happened to Keisha and her former office pal: “Instead of being supportive, she got manipulative. She cozied up to our new boss, and before I knew what had happened, she was promoted to a position that I had been in line for. And she acted like she didn’t understand why I might be upset. I can’t even stand to be around her anymore."

my friend my enemy essay

The same dynamics that create friendship chemistry in the first place can be part of the reason that close friends turn into enemies. Frenemies often develop when there is a sense of betrayal on one side or the other. For instance, a close friend goes after a man or woman you’re interested in, or a house you’re thinking of buying. You feel betrayed, hurt, and angry. You don’t think you’ll ever be able to trust that friend again. And perhaps the sense of betrayal and disillusionment is stronger when it contrasts with an original feeling that you could really like and trust that person. It’s painful to discover that someone you thought shared your values, and was open and honest with you, has turned out not to be what you thought. You begin to dislike the person with an intensity equal to the caring and liking that once existed between you.

So what can you do if your BFF has just turned into your worst enemy? The advice that professionals give to parents of children who have been hurt by this kind of turn-around applies to all of us.

1. Try to talk to your friend to find out what’s going on from their side. Maybe they genuinely misread a situation, or really had no idea that you would be hurt.

2. If your friend denies responsibility or tries to downplay or negate your feelings, try putting what you’re thinking into words anyway. Say it simply and clearly, without blaming, if at all possible. Listen to what they have to say, and acknowledge that you’ll think about it.

3. Take a step back. Daniel Goleman, who has written numerous books about Emotional Intelligence , tells us that very few arguments convince anyone of anything, and that after 20 minutes there is no chance of either side changing their opinion. So after you and your friend have each made your point, end the discussion with an agreement that you’ll both think more about what you’ve said. And then leave. Go on to other things.

4. Cool down. Go for a walk, listen to music, call another friend or someone else you trust.

5. Assess your own part in the situation. Did you do something that hurt your friend, either by accident or on purpose? Could that be what set off some of their behavior? If so, it’s almost always productive to take responsibility for your part. Own up to it, and maybe, if you’re lucky, your friend will do the same, taking responsibility for what he or she did as well.

Finally, no matter what the outcome, remember:

6. Try not to take it personally. Take responsibility for anything you have done, of course. But try to remember that anything this friend—or former friend—is doing is also motivated by his or her own needs, psyche, and behaviors. Thinking about that side of the coin might help you be more empathic , but it can also help you separate yourself from the situation. Sometimes, when a friend consistently hurts your feelings or stabs you in the back, or when a friendship can’t sustain a life change, your best psychological action is to know that the friendship has to end. Jeanne Safer, a New York psychotherapist, writes about realizing that she could never again trust a dear friend who disappeared from her life when Jeanne was hospitalized for a serious illness. Accepting that this woman could not be the friend she wanted was both freeing and self-affirming.

*Names and identifying information have all been changed to protect everyone’s privacy

Keep your eyes open for my new book on women’s friendships— I Know How You Feel: The Joy and Heartbreak of Friendship in Women's Lives .

Follow me on Twitter @fdbarthlcsw.

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Campbell, K., et al. Friendship chemistry: An examination of underlying factors. The Social Science Journal (2015), http://dx.doi.org/10.1016/j.soscij.2015.01.005

Jan Yager, When Friendship Hurts: How to Deal with Friends Who Betray, Abandon, or Wound You, (New York: Touchstone Books, 2010).

Gerald Mollenhorsta, Beate Volkera, Henk Flapa, 2014, “Changes in personal relationships: How social contexts affect the emergence and discontinuation of relationships” Social Networks Volume 37, May 2014, Pages 65–80

Pat O’Connor, 1992, Friendships Between Women: A Critical Review, The Guilford Press.

Jeanne Safer, Ph.D. Broken Bridge: What sparks the demise of a serious friendship and what can be salvaged from the emotional wreckage? Psychology Today March/April 2016

Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence: Why it can matter more than IQ. 2013.

F. Diane Barth L.C.S.W.

F. Diane Barth, L.C.S.W. , is a psychotherapist, teacher, and author in private practice in New York City.

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This selection from Ismat Chughtai’s prose writing, comprising essays, commentaries and pen-portraits of her contemporaries, gives the reader a good idea of the artistic, political and social mores of her times. It also serves as a background to her own work and furnishes insights into the art and lives of her contemporaries.

Chughtai’s involvement with the Progressive Writers’ Association and her friendship with writers like Sa’adat Hasan Manto, Patras Bokhari, Krishan Chander, Rajinder Singh Bedi, and others, have resulted in a treasure-trove of writing, marked by her characteristic irreverence and wit. Every chapter bristles with words, phrases, sentences, even paragraphs that clamour to be quoted. Witty, personal, descriptive, anecdotal and hectoring by turns, Chughtai’s style has few equals in contemporary Indian writing.

ISMAT CHUGHTAI is the author of several collections of short stories, three novellas, a novel, The Crooked Line , a collection of reminiscences and essays, My Friend, My Enemy , and a memoir, Kaghazi Hai Perahan (The Paper-thin Garment). She produced and co-directed six films, and produced a further six independently.

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In our society, relationships between people are very important part in life. Goran Stojanoy once said, “Once should always take care when making a choice of a friend as the friends are the ones you pick by yourself. ” Also, friends come and go, but with some special people they stay in our life forever. In life we spend approximately 30% of our time socializing with people, making friends is one of the process.

It depends on the person who is trying to be friends with you, depends on their gender, depends on their age but most important thing we look at is their personality and this step could make the person become your best friends or your enemy. I’ve never really had an enemy before until I started my life he

re, in Vancouver. Let’s just say my head wasn’t really clear, wasn’t really know them before I made friend with her.

I thought it was a good friendship at first, but then all my other friends start telling me do not make friends with her, guess she was so over me and her actions made my friends and me repulsed. Not for a while I started hearing news about she spread rumors behind my back the first thought pop into my head was “That back stabing little bitch. ” Seeing her I normally feel disgusted. Unlike her my best friend would never say bad things about me neither would I and I won’t allow others to do that.

On the other hand, seeing my best friend puts me in a better and happier mood. I have a lot i

common with my best friend maybe that is why both of us get to be our-self when we are around each other and here I quote “You’re just like me, you crazy. ” Best friend is very supportive and open minded! You always can share your secrets to her/ him and find interests in lots of thing if you find yourself and your enemy has same interests you would just feel disgusted and probably hates it that might causes you and your enemy disagree on anything.

One example feeling, sometimes when best friends fight nobody won’t be real mad at each other because you both know the feeling isn’t real, but enemy between the conversations there always another meaning underneath it. In conclusion, having a best friend is the best thing you’ll ever going to experience in your life time. They will always there for each other. No matter what they’ll helps another when they get hurt from the enemy!

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Dubiously framed as third-world proverb, dusted off and paraded as realpolitik

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like some geopolitical zipper, what happens when the killing starts?

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of those bombers and snipers and plotters. Or failing that, tally the rows

of cordwood corpses, all those paired and empty eyesockets

echoing neither love nor hate just brimming with questions.

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Friendship is one of the greatest blessings that not everyone is lucky enough to have. We meet a lot of people in the journey of life but there are only a few who leave a mark on us. My best friend is one such person who has been able to make a positive impact on my life. We have been a part of each other’s lives for the longest time and our friendship is still developing. She has been with me through all the thicks and thins. Most importantly, I feel extremely fortunate to have someone as a best friend in my life. In this essay on my best friend, I will tell you about how we became friends and about her best qualities.

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Our Friendship

Our friendship started when my best friend came in as a new admission to our class. Both of us were hesitant to talk to each other at first, but gradually we developed a bond. I remember the first time my best friend tried to talk to me; I rolled my eyes because I thought there was no use and we wouldn’t hit it off. However, to my surprise, we became best friends by the end of the session year.

We learned so many things about each other and found out that our taste in music and fashion was so similar. Since then, there was no stopping us. We spent all our time together and our friendship became the talk of the class. We used to help each other out in studies and visited each other’s homes as well. We made sure to have lunch together on Sundays. We also used to watch movies and cartoons together.

On our summer break, we even went to summer camp together and made a lot of memories. Once during the summer holidays, she also accompanied me to my maternal grandparents’ home. We had a fabulous time there. Moreover, we even invented our own handshake which only both of us knew. Through this bond, I learned that family doesn’t end with blood because my best friend was no less than my family. Friendship is one relationship that you choose, unlike all other relationships.

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Qualities of My Best Friend

I feel one of the main reasons why I formed such a bond with my best friend was because of the qualities she possesses. Her courage always inspired me to raise my voice against injustice as she always stood up to her bullies. She is also one of the smartest minds in class who doesn’t only excel academically but also in life. I have never seen a dancer as good as my best friend, the accolades she has won are proof of her talent.

Above all, I feel the quality that appeals to me the most is her compassion . Whether it’s towards humans or animals, she always keeps the same approach. For instance, there was an injured stray dog that was wailing in pain, my best friend did not only get him treated but she also adopted him.

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Similarly, she saw a poor old woman on the streets one day and she only had money for her lunch. My best friend did not hesitate once before giving all of it to the poor lady. That incident made me respect her even more and inspired me to help the underprivileged more often.

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In short, the bond I share with my best friend is one of my most prized possessions. Both of us inspire each other to become better humans. We push each other to do our best and we are always there in need. A best friend is indeed a precious gem and I am fortunate to have found that gem of my life.

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Q.1 Why is it important to have a best friend?

A.1 It is important for everyone to have a best friend as they are our well-wishers with whom one can share everything. In other words, it gets tough to share things with your parents or siblings, but with a best friend, we never hesitate. Additionally, they always support us and boost our confidence.

Q.2 What are the essential qualities of a best friend?

A.2 A best friend should be understanding. One must be able to share anything with them without the fear of being judged. They should be supportive and encouraging of one another. Subsequently, one must always look out for their best friends in times of need.

Q.3. Should you consider all your friends on various Social media as true friends?

A.3  You may have a number of friends on Social media, but they cannot be considered as true friends. Most of them are mere acquaintances. People with whom you talk only occasionally because they are in the same school, college, colony or workplace, but there is no bond of a true friend are acquaintances. A true friend is a person to whom you would go during your hard time seeking help. However, some acquaintances may become friends as time passes by. Thus, we can say that all friends on Social media are not your true friends.

Q.4. Can you have a negative influence on your life due to friends?

A.4  Friends greatly influence one’s life. It is always said that your company defines your character. Friends with good qualities have a positive influence on your life. They motivate you and guide you. Similarly, friends who have bad qualities can negatively influence your life.

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Putin Didn’t Hate Navalny. He Envied Him.

Aleksei Navalny, seen from behind, standing in front of a crowd with his fist raised. There are flags and colorful balloons ahead of him.

By Nadya Tolokonnikova

Ms. Tolokonnikova is a founder of Pussy Riot.

It’s 2007, a warm, sunny spring day in Moscow. It’s my first rally, and I’m nervous. I’m 16, silly and shy, falling in love with courageous and loud people around me. I hear my quiet voice join others screaming, “Russia without Putin.” We lock our arms and together push the police out of the street. Russia could be free: It’s a new feeling for me. This is where I see Aleksei Navalny for the first time.

For the next 17 years, I watched my friend Aleksei rise from a Moscow blogger to a global moral and political figure, giving hope and inspiration to people around the world. He helped me and millions of Russians realize that our country doesn’t have to belong to K.G.B. agents and the Kremlin’s henchmen. He gave us something else, too: a vision he called the “beautiful Russia of the future.” This vision is immortal, unlike us humans. President Vladimir Putin may have silenced Aleksei, who died last week. But no matter how hard he tries, Mr. Putin won’t be able to kill Aleksei’s beautiful dream.

In the autumn of 2011, Mr. Putin announced he was going to become president once again, making it clear that he planned to rule Russia for the rest of his life. My feminist friends and I went to an opposition conference in Moscow to figure out our next steps. Young, riotous and radical, we walked like zombies through all the usual boring panels with sad speakers, poetry readings and sleep-inducing talks on human rights and democracy. It wasn’t inspiring because it was neither practical nor attractive. Yes, we all believed that Russia had to be free. But how do we get there?

And then Aleksei spoke about his anticorruption investigations. I can divide my life into before and after that speech. “We take a stick and poke at the bad guys with this stick, and you can do it with me,” he said. For all of us in that packed room, Aleksei made it feel not only that a free Russia was possible but also that we could get there with joy, laughter and camaraderie. No matter how long the path, you have to break it down into steps and take them one at a time.

That day, Pussy Riot was born. I realized that we needed to create our own set of tools to bring about change: direct, attention-grabbing actions that would be easily replicable, giving birth to a movement. Aleksei gave me the push I needed to create the first Pussy Riot music video, which was based on dozens of dangerous guerrilla performances in Moscow. I was too proud to ever admit it to Aleksei in person, but the idea to make the video came from his speech that day.

We made it our goal to become as effective and loud as Aleksei but with a feminist and queer lens. Months later, when my Pussy Riot colleagues and I were on trial for supposedly inciting religious hatred , there — standing in the courtroom among our family members and activists — was Aleksei.

Despite the support, we were sent for two years to a penal colony, a gloomy and hopeless place, where once again my only hope for political change in Russia came from Aleksei. It was 2013, and he was running a remarkably popular campaign to become the mayor of Moscow. In an attempt to silence him, the government sentenced Aleksei to five years in prison. Infuriated, Russians filled the streets, demanding his immediate release. Miraculously, he was released the next day, pending an appeal. I can’t recall any other opposition force in Russia ever having such power.

People say Mr. Putin feared Aleksei. But I think the reason he wanted to get rid of Aleksei was another emotion — a darker, more sinister one. It was envy. People loved Aleksei. With his jokes, irony, superhero-like fearlessness and love for life, he led with charisma. People followed Aleksei because he was the kind of person you wanted to be friends with. People follow Mr. Putin because they fear him, but people followed Aleksei because they loved him. Mr. Putin clearly envied this appeal. No amount of money in the world can buy love; no amount of missiles and tanks can conquer people’s hearts.

As a feminist, I’ve always found it inspiring that Aleksei, unlike many others in Russian politics, chose to surround himself with strong women — Maria Pevchikh , Kira Yarmysh , Lyubov Sobol — and trusted them in the highest positions of power in his camp. And of course, there was his love and respect for his wife, Yulia. It’s a stark contrast with Mr. Putin, known for his cavemanlike sexism, bragging , “I am not a woman, so I don’t have bad days.” Truly confident men don’t need to build their self-esteem at women’s expense.

“How is life in prison?” Aleksei asked me on the phone in 2013. “Not ideal but not too bad,” I answered. “One can survive here.” Aleksei’s team later told me that he recalled our conversation when he decided to go back to Russia after his poisoning in 2020. It was a characteristically brave decision. From his return to his death, it was just three years.

People say hope died with Aleksei. I see it differently: With Aleksei’s passing, a new sense of responsibility has been born. For many of us in Russia, Aleksei was like an older brother or a father figure, someone who was always there to clean up your mess. We lost him so painfully early, so prematurely. Now there’s no one else in the room. We owe it to Aleksei and his dream for a new beautiful Russia to carry on the fight.

Nadya Tolokonnikova ( @nadyariot ) is an artist and activist and a founder of the performance art group Pussy Riot.

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My Best Friend Essay in English (100, 200, 300, 500 Words)

A best friend is a special and unforgettable person in our lives and will stay longer than other common friends. We share most of the things, conversations, and important talks and support them anytime in our lives.

In this topic, we are discussing the best friend and the memories that we all spent with our friends and best friends. 

We have covered an essay pattern in various paragraphs of around 100 words, 200 words, 300 words, and 500 words, respectively, that helps many of the children or students of class 2 to 12th to understand the short and descriptive essay pattern of the best friend.

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My Best Friend Essay 100 Words

I always thank God that he sent Rahul into my life as my best friend, and I also wish that everyone has a friend like Rahul. Rahul and I met on the first day of school after the summer vacation when we were studying in the 5th standard.

I also remember an incident when our class teacher asked him about his previous school and the place from where he came. He is a good speaker, and he gave an interesting answer to everyone in his introduction in class. 

He is good at studies and also a good athlete. He loves running and singing too, and his handwriting is also very neat and clean. I feel happy to become his friend, and he also loves my company, and we spend most of our time together.

My Best Friend Essay 200 Words

I have had a lot of friends since childhood, but Raghav is one of the kindest and most trustworthy friends for me. I must say that Rohan has been my best friend since childhood. He is a very good person and a true friend because he has a good manner that he never lies to anyone, and hates people who lie to him. He is a kind boy and also a sincere student. We both live in the same building, and our apartments are also in front of each other. 

My parents also met my friend in the school at the parents-teachers meeting, and they also like Raghav and his sincerity. We both have been in the same class from the 3rd standard until now. We are in the 10th standard now, and we both help each other in the preparation for Board exams, which will be held in the month of March. 

He always invites me to his house to play video games with him. Every Sunday, we both enjoy playing video games with popcorn and juice together. Sometimes, our school teachers also wonder about our true friendship and the strong bond between us. He has a set of badminton rackets and a shuttle, and we also play together in the evening near our building. We both love each other’s company.

My Best Friend Essay 300 Words

Everyone has at least a single friend who is more than just a friend to them. Getting a friend is common, but getting a true friend is very rare and a bit special. It is like a big achievement for people to get a trustworthy and lifelong best friend. I also had a best friend in my life too since childhood. His name is Ganaraj, and his mother is Telugu. We are neighbors too and also classmates. We always sit together in school and also spend most of the time together. 

He is a very talented person and always supports me in my studies. We both like mathematics, and also we love to solve maths numerical problems. I like to play games, and we both always play games together and participate in the sports that are held in school. Our favorite sport is Cricket, and we both are good all-rounders on our school cricket team. Our class teacher always suggests and supports us to play cricket even better and also helps in education to achieve success in life.

He is very valuable to me, and I always value his friendship as I value my parents. He is like my family, as a brother from another mother. Whenever I need his help and support, my best friend is there for me to hold me. We both live in the precious moment and create memories that will stay with me forever. Our friendship is a kind of beautiful relationship, and I hope any kind will never break these mistakes. Every Sunday, we go together to a playground near our locality, and we spend most of our time there. My parents also like Ganaraj to be my friend. Everyone is happy with our friendship and has a strong bond that never goes down in any situation.

My Best Friend Essay 500 Words

My best friend’s name is Siddhart Jadhav. We have been friends since class 7th A in Alfred Nobel High School. We both studied in the same school in childhood but not in the same class as our sections are different. Later that time, all the students from all the sections are sorted according to the previous academics’ percentages and grades and separated into four different sections. Due to this separation, I met Siddhart in the 7th A, and we became friends at that time. Later, time goes by, and our friendship bond becomes stronger, and we become best friends with each other and spend most of our time together in school, tuition, and extra classes. We also sit on the same bench in the classroom. 

Our likes and dislikes are also common, and we also love to dance and sing. In every annual gathering and other function that is held in our school, we both participate and give our best performances. We never wanted to win the competitions, our intention was to enjoy the gathering. Some of our school teachers don’t like our togetherness and friendship, but some of them loved and always blessed our strong bonded friendship to stay longer and longer. Siddharth and I always talked in the running classroom, and most of the time, our teacher also punished both of us by standing outside the classroom. We always tried to irritate the lecturer in the chemistry lectures by asking tons of doubts and questions. We eat tiffin boxes sitting on the last benches.

Apart from this naughtiness, Siddharth is very punctual, and he is never late for coming to school and attending classes. He always completes his homework at a given time and being with him, I also start studying very well and completing my homework on time. He keeps his books and copies very clean. His writing is very nice and encourages me to write cleanly and clearly for better understanding. My parents also compliment my friend that being with him, I also become responsible and a good student.

Siddharth and I are both excellent football players and athletes. When we both start playing the football game, the opponent team never wins. Our sports teacher always motivates us and tells us that we will become good football players one day. My parents also know Siddharth very much, and they like his pleasant behavior. Feel free when Siddharth and I stay together, whether for playing games, video games, study, or for going out to have fun with other classmates. Siddharth is my best friend, my first friend. He is the one who offers me help in my studies when I need it, supports me and always shows love to me, defends me, and stands by my side in any situation no matter what. 

In academics, my best friend, Siddharth, is chosen to be awarded the best student of the year in the 10th class. He is one of the brilliant students of our school and also won many of the competitions that were held in school. He is like a well-wisher, and I always enjoyed his company. He, too, feels secure and relieved by spending time with me as well. He is like a problem-solving friend to me. I never wanted to lose him in my life.

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